{"id":1491,"date":"2013-05-02T15:50:30","date_gmt":"2013-05-02T19:50:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/allebach.goodgallery.com\/blog\/?p=1491"},"modified":"2013-05-03T09:35:32","modified_gmt":"2013-05-03T13:35:32","slug":"hack-wedding-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.allebachphotography.com\/blog\/hack-wedding-day\/","title":{"rendered":"Don’t Be a Hack on your Wedding Day"},"content":{"rendered":"

Don’t Be a Hack on your Wedding Day<\/h2>\n

and why I think comparison is killing brides and making wedding planning no fun.<\/h4>\n

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As I was reading The War of Art by Steven Pressfield, I came across a section about how to be a hack writer or artist by Robert McKee. What struck me is how close that definition matched my definition of a hack bride (thankfully I don’t get these kind of brides). \u00a0So I rewrote his section on hack artists\/writers and replaced them with bride.<\/p>\n

“When the hack sits down to [plan a wedding], she doesn\u2019t ask herself what\u2019s in her own heart. She asks what the [guests] are looking for. The hack condescends to her audience. She thinks she\u2019s superior to them.<\/p>\n

The truth is, she\u2019s scared to death of them or, more accurately, scared of being authentic in front of them, scared of [being] \u00a0what she herself thinks is interesting. So she tries to anticipate what the [guests] (a telling word) wants, then gives it to them.<\/p>\n

She writes what she imagines will play well in the eyes of others. She does not ask herself [or her future husband], What do I myself want to [have]? What do I think is important? Instead she asks, What\u2019s hot, what can I make a deal for?<\/p>\n

The hack is like the politician who consults the polls before she takes a position. She\u2019s a demagogue. She panders.”<\/p>\n

-Robert McKee<\/p>\n

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I think what i’m getting at is if you want a vegan wedding, have a vegan wedding. If you don’t want alcohol, you don’t have to have it. \u00a0Elephants at your wedding, awesome. \u00a0Your uncle harry makes your mother cry at weddings….don’t invite him. \u00a0It’s up to you to choose the traditions you want to keep and the ones you don’t want to keep.<\/p>\n

Right now I want to affirm that if you want to have a simple no-frills wedding – that is perfectly okay!<\/strong> \u00a0Have a wedding in a park. \u00a0Have a wedding on a public train. Or have a wedding on a median of a road in Philadelphia(like one of my awesome couples did) and let your family and friends watch.<\/p>\n

Like Theodore Roosevelt said “Comparison is the thief of joy.”<\/strong><\/p>\n

Have the wedding you<\/em> want! Give up the pressure from wedding magazines & pinterest. \u00a0This wedding is about a marriage. Have fun and let go.<\/p>\n

What do you think?<\/p>\n